Both his side and my side think he needs to be in a memory facility as the falls are becoming more and more dangerous. Today he can't remember how to use the controls for his lift chair - or he is using that as an excuse to have me do all his fetch and carrying (family doctor wants him moving around - carefully using walker). He can get his own water but refuses to. I have always found it easier to fetch and carry then to incur his anger when told no. He even gets angry when I ask him to wait a minute as I'm in the middle of something. His son thinks I've created his problem by waiting on him our whole married life. I also realize how terrified and anxious his kids are as they see how he is going downhill fairly quickly - physical as well as mental. He no longer likes phone calls as he has problems operating the phone - along with the memory problem.

With dementia the whole family suffers in one way or another.