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What’s a reasonable amount to do in a day?

Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Jun 14, 2022 | Replies (31)

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@witsend000

Lol! I’ll have to remember that acronym. That is exactly what I do.

My husband is a wonderful man. He does pitch in at home. Sometimes he vacuums or does a load of laundry or dishes.
I really appreciate his help and I always thank him, but I actually hate it when he does those things because it makes me feel like a failure. He works so very hard at work and for long hours, I feel like I should at least have the house clean and in order when he’s home.

We have no children and aren’t really social people, so we don’t really get visitors either. Our parents are elderly with health problems and I would never want to ask for their help.

Actually, they need more of my help; especially my parents.

ADCD… I’ll have to tell my mom that one ☺️

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Love the meme:).
If someone comes to the door, I panic cue to the state of my house. I have frequently ignored people at the door that I'm not expecting. turns out it was a good way of setting boundaries with a very nosy neighbor :). I definitely have ADCD!
My daughter helps with things like grocery shopping, driving me to appointments, etc. She will also do some laundry, and take care of the trash. I get very frustrated when she lets things slide and I can't do it. She shovels in the winter. I still like yard work, but it's getting more difficult. I feel angry when she doesn't help out more, but feel useless when she does take care of things with so little effort. There's also a neighbor who has helped me many times with any mechanical issues that come up.
She's been able to be pretty social, but when the pandemic started, it barely affected me. I was one of the few not complaining about lockdown since I rarely go out:) I am really grateful that she is here and helps me.
I used to be the most organized person in my groups, and I really miss the ability to keep going. One of the things that occurred to me was that I let all of my old routines go when I became unable to work. Restarting new routines has been difficult as I always overestimate my abilities. When I push through, several days of pain and exhaustion follow. My brain feels rattled today, so I hope this isn't' too rambling.
I'm glad to have found this group, as I have been unable to secure any type of counseling. There's a huge list through my insurance company for virtual therapy, but I can't find anyone to help. Either they don't even bother to return my query or they are booked for months. The mental health field seems to be suffering form a huge shortage.