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Dealing with Anger and Disbelief in person with dementia
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Sep 12, 2022 | Replies (28)Comment receiving replies
Hope his medications help. It is so hard, especially not knowing what can trigger it (once Bill exploded at me over a new jar of peanut butter as he thought it tasted funny and I didn't). I end up taking walks a lot.
This morning Robin and I finished setting up his den with new 65 TV and Robin actually could get his TV streamer hooked up to it so it goes directly to his hearing aids and we don't have to listen to the sound - or have it blasting. I do love his streamer. We got his new lift chair put together as well. He is having problems with the remote for the chair as it has two more buttons than the other one.
Once we assured him that he wasn't being isolated and that he still had the other lift chair so whenever he wanted to be in the other room he could. Then he was pleased and settled back to watch his golf while Robin and I played mad dogs or Englishmen and walked in the noon day sun.
We are hopeful that the Mayo doctors will be able to come up with something to help on the anger, stress and anxiety issues. His appointment is set for the 20th so fingers crossed - along with eyes and toes.
You take your victories where and how you can lol!
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His Seroquel finally kicked in after a little over a month and made a tremendous difference.
He still gets mad and pouty at times but then he has done that his whole life. One of his doctor's insist I not waiting on him, making him get out of his chair and move - getting his own water or ice cream bars. Sometimes he will without a problem. Other times he asks me to do it (according to the doctor I'm supposed to refuse). If I refuse in goes into the silent treatment usually. I try to let him know that it is for his own good and then he will pull the 'I'm too weak to walk into the kitchen' bit. And sometimes I know he is as he can hardly make it out of the bathroom.
I hate conflict! and I was brought up to always ask if I could get something for someone. Especially if they had a cat in their lap. So it is very hard for me to refuse to help him. Family thinks I need to follow the doctor's instructions.
This morning he woke up in his 'silent treatment' mode - I just ignore it and act as if everything is normal. At age 89 he isn't going to change.
Tuesday he has an assessment for Phoenix Dial-A-Ride. Will be a long morning. I tried to get it waived but no dice - they want him to due a course to see if he can actually handle getting on/off a bus or light rail - of course he could never walk to the bus stop in a million years as getting around the house is a major undertaking.
We also tried for Uber Health but they are completely filled at the moment. That would be a God send if a place would open up as there is no cost for getting to and from medical appointments and much faster to use than Dial-A-Ride. He sabotaged Home Health Care deliberately using 'showtime'. I just have to pray he doesn't try it on Tuesday. Although I don't think he could last 45 minutes of walking a course!
Another issue is he thinks he hasn't done a crap for a week or two so now I'm logging it lol. He keeps wanting to do a Fleet every day otherwise. Not a good thing. Things no one ever tells you about the married state - other than 'worse'.