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Dealing with Anger and Disbelief in person with dementia
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Sep 12, 2022 | Replies (28)Comment receiving replies
Most of the time I feel like I'm a pogo stick with Bill. His anger can be overwhelming at times, especially when he attacks my daughter Robin (his step) who is trying to help him. We recently moved in with her which Bill is now unhappy with. He doesn't think we need the help yet he keeps falling or nearly falling, problem getting dressed, etc. Now he wants to drive again! Plus online he wants to buy everything offered.
So I've had to take financial steps - no PayPal anymore! Also plan on selling the car as I shouldn't drive either. In the meantime I've given keys to Robin.
Yesterday turned into a good day, which I treasure as no idea what today will bring when he wakes up.
This group is really a life saver as you can not only ask questions but they let you vent. Trying to keep it inside can tear you apart. And a lot of times you find an answer that really helps with things. Years ago we went through it with Bill's sister (she wanted to kill him and kept reporting her beloved daughter to the police). At least I haven't had that - he just wants to leave me every other day if I won't move out with him!
God Bless.
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Thank you for sharing so much. We are not quite at that stage, yet, but i have had a few instances of explosive anger, surprising at what spurred it. One at the airport, one at Costco and one in a restaurant. When others hear it they may call security, so i have learned to only go with him when absolutely needed and to go to places i can easily get home in a hurry. I give excuses as to why i don't go. He has stopped at home because i have learned when it might be coming on and don't comment or start conversations. Oh and even if he asks to pick up something when he's going out, i tell him nothing needed. He is on a medication now that after a few weeks seemed to make those outbursts much less.