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Spouse with cognitive problems and finances
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 30, 2022 | Replies (290)Comment receiving replies
Ginger, you just made me smile!
Robin had both feet operated on last Friday and has to stay off them for a week. So I am moving Bill's walker between the two of them. Yesterday she was bored so she knelt on the seat while I pushed her around and Bill cheered us on and took a picture. Fortunately his walker is really easy to move around.
Robin also ordered him some shower wipes that she had used for her husband Tom when he was afraid to shower any more. Bill was pleased with that and is looking forward to them. Since his two recent shower falls he is really leery of showering - and he has a problem getting to the bathroom in time. Finally has decided to utilize his depends. Thank heavens!
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Good morning, @billchitwood
Your post made me smile! I am so pleased to read the move seems to have gone as well as can be hoped for! Such an upheaval for all, especially Bill .
On the issue of pairing of his hearing aids to his computer, I use earbuds with my laptop. I find they pair super simply, have wonderful sound, and in my case, I can use just the one in my hearing ear.
I imagine you have thought of this, but I think I bought out our local hardware store of those old-school non-slip sticky shower stickers. My wife would catch her toes on a mat, so I went with those. I picked a bunch of patterns and then used two brightly colored flowers to indicate the best place for her feet. Later on, she had me add two for me when I had to help her in the shower. She'd warn me not to come any closer 🙂 Not for everyone, but it helped us for the duration of her ability to shower.
We have two steps down from our house to the driveway. When I installed a wheelchair ramp she got mad, until I made a sign (still on our door) calling it "Mr. Toad's Wild Ride" from the old Disney ride. You are SO right -- humor can often help!
I really understand your comment about not mentioning things. There came to be many issues I'd totally avoid and asked our kids to avoid with my wife. One was the change to daylight savings time, one was holidays, and if there was rain in the forecast. Ahhh, with my wife, at times, ignorance was certainly bliss (or at least a bit less anxiety).
Driving for us was a huge issue. It was a serious point of contention at a certain time with me and our children. Again, not for everyone, but the only way we could convenience my wife she had to give up the car keys for good was when she took an electronic drivers test. (Her's was done at Mayo in Rochester during one of her regular visits.) The results were undeniable! They showed her she would be unsafe at any speed on the roads. The loss of each different shred of independence is always so difficult, challenging, and terribly sad.
How are you adjusting to the move? Hopefully well!
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