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Loss and Grief: How are you doing?
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I am so with you. My life is a roller coaster. Some days are quiet and I seem to be "accepting" that my husband is gone and I will only see him in my dreams. Other days I am wild with grief, sobbing, banging my hands and sometimes even screaming. I have been told it will get better and I hope so. In the meantime, you just get through each day as best you can. Love and peace.
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I lost my husband, the love of my like, In 2020, in March.
He was a big strapping handsome, hardworking Contractor, age 68. on a Job in CA for family. In 12 days he died.
My grief is so profound, he was the love of my life. Life without him has been sad, sobbing and screaming in emotional pain.
I have my good days and bad, he was the only person in the World who could hold me, and I felt, more love and safe then anywhere else in my life.
We get to re/invent our lives. I have a legacy page on FB to celebrate his life every month. We will
See them again, sending love and loving arms of comfort to you.
It does get easier, it becomes historical and not so hysterical. Sending prayers and care ❤️🔑💟🥰Calygirl
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Hi, @thisismarilynb I hope your day is going well today, the sun is shining, and you notice something beautiful today. Personally, I woke today to memories of our grandson's graduation from high school. It made me smile and forget for a few moments.
Not for everyone, I am sure, but for me, one of the healthiest things I came to understand about grief was that grief is intensely personal. It was extra exhausting to me when folks, well-meaning I'm sure, would insist on telling me where I was on some grief scale or worse, what 'step' I was on! Our loved one was unique, our journey together in our lives was unique, our caregiving relationship was unique, our love was unique! I believe this results in each of our grief trips being unique. Once I gave myself permission to feel however I needed to at any given day, time of day, etc., I was far more comfortable in my grief. It was the same when I gave myself permission to act on my grief however it felt best -- to me, not to others. I love to write and share stories and memories of my wife, our lives together, and such. For instance, during the week of our grandson's graduation, I admit certain aspects of it made me sad and intensified my feelings of grief, so i found it comforting to share a memory or two and tell some stories about us.
I wish you a safe and healthy ride on your personal roller coaster!
Keep in touch and I continue to wish you Strength, Courage, & Peace