Thank you for sharing this conversation. The timeliness is uncanny as I became a widow a year ago and am updating my legal documents. I have a blended family and recently had a conversation with our adult children (5) to feel them out about being the executor or executrix, Healthcare POA, etc. The result was surprising. My step-daughter didn't hesitate to express her desire to take on the responsibility and help me when needed. My youngest two daughters didn't say anything, nor did our sons. A day later I learned my daughters (the youngest two) would not be pleased if their step-sister was in charge. I feel their motivation was more focused on who was controlling what little money (their inheritance) I have and not about who could make the hard decisions when needed. My youngest daughter feels that because I am only 60, they won't have to worry about this for a long time. My husband died at age 60 after being on a ventilator for 12 days followed by 5 days in Hospice.

Don't assume you know who will step up. Have the conversation especially if you are a blended family! I learned a valuable lesson and decided to name my best friend of 45+ years as my executrix. She'll make sure all my wishes are carried out.