Trust me, it didn’t happen for me overnight! And I resisted the idea that thinking a certain way about my pain would change anything. My heart goes out to you and I truly understand your struggle. I’ve had chronic pain since 2003 and am disabled. I had to quit working due to pain and inability to function. I went from being really social, job I loved, lots of friends, very active to bedridden pretty quickly. I live alone and have been very isolated too. I relied on my doctors to provide answers, treatments and pills for my pain and conditions. I tried acupuncture, chiropractor, massage with limited and temporary relief. It’s taken me a long time to realize how important my mental outlook is about pain and how it plays a roll in my ability to cope and help myself. After years of therapy, both physical and mental, doctors that only provided partial relief, dependence on outside help, etc., I started using a phone app to meditate. I was pretty lousy at 1st! I had a hard time keeping my focus and I probably didn’t take it very seriously. I had just heard how good it was for me and was willing to try anything! After a while, I started noticing it helped relax my mind and body. It’s about focus on my breath. Biofeedback is similar and has medically proven benefits, which I had tried before. That led to me searching for other ways to apply natural techniques to my care routine. I started reading about nutrition, food, stretching exercises, posture, protein, vitamins, what exercise I could do, etc. I began to realize how much my mental outlook, positive reinforcement, meditation, mental distractions from pain, moderation and self care have helped me through my most difficult times dealing with chronic pain. I’m certainly not perfect in my practice! I’m more interested now in continuing to educate myself in those areas. It’s a practice I apply everyday. Little by little I’ve found things that help. This is a life commitment for me. I came to a point I wanted it so badly because I realized my doctors, as good as they are can’t take away all my pain. I had to do something about my attitude about that! I basically stopped resisting the idea that I have a lot more control over how I manage my pain than I gave myself credit for. Nothings perfect all the time, but I wouldn’t turn back now for anything!