Bob- Have you talked frankly with Liz about what will happen if she doesn't help herself? And if she wants to die? I know that this is a hard question to face for both of you. If she does want to die, at this point, then her hospice care will change to keeping her as pain-free as can be and as peaceful as possible. Her treatments will stop unless they will keep her comfortable. This is what she might want because she has cancer throughout her body but might be afraid to talk about it?

I can imagine that you aren't sleeping. This has happened like an unexpected avalanche and must be very hard to understand and frustrating.

Are there any questions that you are asking yourself that I might help you with?

Bob- Another week has gone by. Has Liz begun to eat a bit more? How is she doing with chemo? Can she tolerate the side effects?

If I remember correctly I think that your youngest daughter is visiting this weekend. Perhaps you can get some much-needed rest and time alone, outside if it's nice outside.

Best to you,
Merry