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Loss of husband: I'm only existing, how do I live again?
Loss & Grief | Last Active: May 1, 2023 | Replies (123)Comment receiving replies
Hi, @thisismarilynb So sorry to read of your loss of your husband. I lost my wife after 42 years and know the void is a tough one to manage.
This might not work for you but before I lost my wife I had started a "To Do" list. It had all types of things on it. Some large (see where our children had moved) some small, like call an old friend, write a birthday card to a third cousin, clean under my bed, etc. Now I continue to keep this list going since it keeps me going! I like always having something I see that I need to do or many which are fun to do. This also helps me feel motivated, needed, and more fulfilled than I had been feeling with my loss.
How long has it been since your husband passed away?
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Thank you for your reply. Hearing from people, even via email, makes you feel more like a regular "human being," a feeling not familiar for me now. My husband passed away August 20, 2021. Then I had the hip replacement. Going through this alone was more than tough. I have two sons, but only one lives in this country. We have had a major falling out. Now my cleaning person didn't come and have no way to reach her. I look outside because I really feel the sky is falling down directly on my head. As I reread your message I see you like to keep going. This is not true for me. I just want to to lie in bed and wait for the end. I promised my eldest son that I would never harm myself because I believe it is a sin. Heck I won't even pierce my ears because I feel that is desecrating my body. I know in the end I have to heal myself, but not there yet.