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Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Jan 3, 2024 | Replies (68)
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In psychiatry they talk about family roles. This is mine. I have always had the advance directives and care plan of every family member in my file cabinet. It is a difficult thing to be that person. Made more difficult if a family member does not want to have that conversation. I had to tell my Dad that if he wanted me to make decisions for him, he needed to give me position to defend. Now I approach it that way. I tell them “your job is to make all the choices”, my job is to fiercely defend those choices, if you cannot. This job takes a toll on a person, but it leaves gifts as well.
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@auntieoakley That's a great way to express it to someone who may be reluctant to start the needed conversations and paperwork. I'd wager we have both seen what can happen when nothing was put onto paper! It took me a long while to get my husband to do his paperwork, and I just revamped mine. His thought was, "well, I've told you, so that's enough. And my kids know what they get." I have current originals in my file cabinet, plus an encrypted memory stick with my bonus son in his safe, with everything scanned onto it, as a backup.
I am included in my sister's care plan as well, and her file is with me.
Ginger