Good afternoon @fignolia, and welcome to Connect. This is a place where folks share their experiences, hopes, and even fears. We all can learn from each other. I remember how frightened I was when I damaged my right shoulder falling down the mountain. I had no idea that it would take 3 years and 3 surgeries to fix it. I ended up with a reverse TSR after the disappointment of rotator cuff and cadaver surgery.

What made the difference.????.......a surgeon who put patient care way above anything else. Do you think your surgeon would sit with you through a video of the surgery and explain what is going on? That sure helped me. And it let me know that he knew what he was doing. Just a suggestion but one that worked for me. He also fought with my insurance company until they relented and approved the surgery.

So with a pretty high trust level, I let go of my fear and turned everything over to him. Guess what he did? In the evening after the surgery, he came and sat in my room to make sure I was doing alright. Because I have difficulty with anesthesia, he also asked the anesthesiologist to stop by and make sure everything was o.k.

I think trust is a very necessary ingredient for a successful surgery. How can you become trusting? I want to echo what @johnbishop would tell you and that is to learn as much as you can about your condition and the options for treating it. Knowledge is power.

Perhaps you can help me understand. How did you injure your shoulder? What treatments have you undertaken already? What medications have you found to be helpful? Your answers will help me and other connect members in our efforts to be supportive.

May you be free of suffering and the causes of suffering.
Chris

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