Linda- SOns are very funny about talking about the death of their mom. One time my son told me that he would lock me in a closet when I said that I didn't want to be put in a nursing home. lol Or, don't worry you aren't going anywhere for a very long time!
If your son still can't handle what you need to tell him then write it all down and make sure that his wife has a copy, along with all of your legal papers. Would that work?
@merpreb Great idea she knows where the key is to my safe but not other documents .I,lol share it with her too