@pem and @harriethodgson1, I'm so glad that you've connected. I hope that you will continue to post here in this discussion and share your tips, trials, tribulations and joys to help other grandparents who are raising their grandchildren.

Harriet, how old are your grandchildren now?
Pem, you certainly have a lot on your plate with opposite ends of life stages - a husband with declining cognitive abilities and and granddaughter on the precipice of puberty, middle school and more. I found those years challenging, especially ages 13-15.

I wonder if the generation divide and perspective is helpful in dealing with the adolescent years? Or since you're the primary parent that you become the authority figure that bears the brunt of their confusing lifestage?