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My mother never wanted to talk about her wishes. Then when she was in the throes of dementia and Alzheimers, there was no way to connect. My father later was just the opposite, and we did the best we could to honor what he wanted.
You can document what things you want to go to specific people in a document or letter.
In broad terms, things like: do I want visitors, do I want someone to read to me or play music, do I want someone to hold my hand [or not], in case I cannot communicate this. Comfort care type things. https://www.fivewishes.org/
Ginger
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I've had 3 cancer's and a clinical trial......we were thinking maybe 5 more years? Drs., had no clue. I asked my husband to hold me in his arms and let me go to sleep, it was the hardest thing in the world, or so I thought. My husband was diagnosed with neuroendocrine Cancer PNET and not curable.....I am in remission now. As long as there is love, understanding and peace. Our girls don't want to talk either, I have offered therapy etc. I told the girls this is the circle of life, parents are not supposed to bury a child. That is a tragedy, this is the circle.....
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Neither of my parents wanted to talk to any of us about death and dying. My mother once said that once you're dead, your dead! Well, how is that for a sympathetic ear to unanswered questions? Thank you for the link and your wonderful way with words!
Merry