I have used 5 Wishes for my planning, along with the necessary legal paperwork. I found it to be very thorough and offers a wide range of ideas, not just the "nuts and bolts". When I had my surgery in December, I had my advanced healthcare directive loaded into my file at the hospital. It included all the plans, including the 5 Wishes. I have been fortunate enough to be part of conversations with people who are forward thinking their ideas and getting everything in writing. And funny, that the talks usually start with "because I love you...and want you to be part of your final arrangements done in the manner you want..."
Ginger

Hello Ms. Merry,
Thank you. Yes, I am hopeful that the take away is, while documents are important, conversations with loved ones about choices you have made or may not be ready to make is even more important. There are many valid documents that list different treatment options for you to consider receiving or refuse. It would be difficult to try and cover every scenario that could possibly happen, the circumstances surrounding them or potential outcomes. That is why it is good to share your choices and what makes for an acceptable or unacceptable outcome with your loved ones and care team. “Your person” or “your voice” needs to be that someone who knows you best and can keep all who love you on the same page; like you said, “oh, mom wouldn’t like that at all”.