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Introductions: Are you caring for someone with dementia?
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@raebaby I immediately know I'd like your husband!
While I understand HOA work can be thankless (I was the HOA president in another neighborhood we lived in for 8 years since no one else would ever offer to take over), I agree it can be a real cesspool of perceived power. I remember when we lived in a townhome and every house had white hydrangeas along their walks. I asked if I could plant a different color and was told NO, it was against the rules and sure enough there it was "no planting of any flowers without permission"...so I remembered an old trick my grandma used to do. She'd stick iron ten-penny nails in the ground at the roots of her hydrangas and the change in ph would alter the flower's color! Same plant -- made them crazy upset with me, but all it did for me was make me smile every summer!
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How funny, plotting to put one over on the HOA! One of the owners had a sun catcher in their window they had to remove. I'm surprised that there isn't a secret squad that comes into the house to check out the colors of the sofas, and if they are displeased, are marched off to a dungeon never to return.
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Bill was an HOA president and our daughter is at present - a thankless job. Lots of power plays even among board members. Bill would get so angry. Later I began to think that was the start of his decline. He was constantly angry, especially at me. And his taste changed (I can't believe how much food I threw away as he claimed it was bad and then say I would eat anything! Furious with me when I admitted that I thought it tasted normal). When we moved to KY and a new doctor she put him on a stress reducing medication and that helped a ton. Probably saved our marriage. Last night he spilled something and it became my fault. I just agreed and then about 15 minutes later he calmed down and apologized. At the moment he gets upset if I'm not next to him (I'm trying to pack our home for a move). He wants all of my attention - sort of like a two year old. His health is such that he can't 'help' me or even go room to room with me while I work. I just make quick breaks to check on him, sit a moment, re-listen to his complains about his computer and TV ads - then go back to work for another 15 minutes. Makes for a much longer day lol.