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Just diagnosed with Endometrioid Adenocarcinoma: What to expect?

Gynecologic Cancers | Last Active: Dec 12, 2022 | Replies (239)
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@cmb2022

@naturegirl5 , For me it is hard to share my feelings with my friends and family. While they are supportive, they don't seem to grasp that it wasn't just surgery, recovery and done. If I am honest I never realized that prior to my diagnosis either. I don't want to dwell on this, but it is hard not to

I understand your anxiousness from the phone call. I have always been nervous and anxious at medical appointments and I really don't know why.

I was not familiar with "radical acceptance", but that is a fair way to look at the reality. Life is so confusing and down right hard isn't it?

I will do as my doctors' advise too. I had always been healthy prior to this and hadn't required a lot of follow up and frankly tried to avoid unnecessary visits but definitely went when I needed to.

Thank you for sending positive energy for my appointment. I will be honest I am nervous about it. I meant to ask,, but was preoccupied as we covered many issues in just a short period of time. I feel less anxious with these things if I know ahead of time what to expect.

Thank you for being so supportive. I can't imagine how many lives you have changed! I know how grateful I am to have connected here.

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Helen, Volunteer Mentor | @naturegirl5 | Apr 2, 2022

@cmb2022 I share my feelings with a few very close friends and yet I can't quite find the words to share how I feel about cancer. I do have one close friend who "gets" me if you know what I mean. She loves me so deep down and knows how to validate my feelings in a way that feels like no other. We've known one another for over 40 years.

I'm selective who I tell about my cancer for the reasons you stated. It's not that it's a big secret. I just don't want to explain how very complex cancer diagnosis and treatment is and that not every cancer is the same.

I've been an anxious person for as long as I can remember. But here's the catch. With this nervousness comes a conscientiousness in my life that got me through school and my work life. We all approach uncertainty differently. I had a total hip replacement at Mayo and was so very appreciative that an education session that was scheduled the day before my surgery. Presumably Mayo "knows" that patients do better when they know what to expect.

Here's a book I like that introduced me to radical acceptance.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000FC2NHG/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

Of course you are nervous about your appointment in June. Someone else may say to you "oh, that's so far away, what are you worried about?". Not helpful and I've heard comments like that many times. Being nervous about our cancer surveillance appointments comes with where we are in our lives as cancer survivors. We don't like it but it's there.

Thank you for the compliments. I so appreciate them. And thank you for always asking about me.

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