Hello, @ljean63 It makes sense that you are very frightened. I was diagnosed with uterine (endometrial) cancer in 2019 and it was shock and very scary. I couldn't talk and I could barely think for at least a day or two. Once my doctor and I discussed the plan I began to feel better.

I have a few questions for you.

Did you or your husband receive a copy of the pathology report? That report will include the method used to look at your husband's specimen and the diagnosis.

Your husband has a different take-away from the discussion with his doctor than you did. Were you present at his meeting with his urologist or are you going on what your husband told you? It's really hard to figure anything out when we don't hear something from the source.

Would you like to encourage your husband to get another opinion? If so, your husband can ask his urologist for a referral to oncology. Are you near a major academic medical center? That's usually the best place to find a doctor who specializes in what your husband was diagnosed with.

I can understand why you wouldn't want to share your fears with your husband. Assuming you've been married for many years he probably has figured out that his diagnosis in resulting in big worries for you.

If you'd like your husband to be seen at Mayo Clinic, here is the link to request an appointment:
http://mayocl.in/1mtmR63