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Hi @billchitwood Julie. Scott here. Sounds like yesterday was indeed a tougher one than most!
I know each patient and their journey is unique, but here is what I did with my wife. First, I continually told myself it was her disease talking and not her. This at least helped me manage some of the disappointments during our "conversations". Second I found myself using a tremendous amount of noncommittal responses to my wife's ideas, suggestions, desires, etc. I can' tell you how many times I would respond "that's interesting, honey". I also found myself stopping my attempts at trying to reason with her as reason and logic were no longer in her repertoire. I also had to give up trying to help her remember since that ability was also unavailable to her.
Again, not for everybody, but I kept an old feather pillow on our sofa, which became my late-night place to muffle my crying and that I could also punch to relieve my frustrations on the really bad days.
Strength, Courage, & Peace