Let me re-phrase the bit about Effexor: It was suggested several times. Out of desperation to get some sleep, I started on Effexor. Obviously, no one forced me but, I had no idea how awful it would be to stop taking it. I guess I didn't know the questions to ask (?). I have learned so much through this experience and over the years: if you don't know what to ask, you may not get the information you need for the present or the future. With cancer, we are given options and we make our own treatment decisions. So, yes, we "own" our decisions. This can be both good and bad.