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Spouse with cognitive problems and financesCaregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 30, 2022 | Replies (290)
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We sold and then closed on our home this past Monday and are now with our daughter. Just before the move Bill fell in the bathroom – took over a half hour to manage to get him on his feet. This afternoon he refused to use the walk in shower and used the one in the tub – needless to say, he fell trying to get out of the tub. He has conceded that he will use the walk in from now on. At least he has agreed as of the moment. Will take a lot of adjusting. Daughter Robin is doing a fantastic job of making him feel comfortable (she went through it with her husband and he had his bladder removed due to cancer – which they regretted as it didn't really extend his life but made the rest of it an agony). Fortunately, once again, no broken bones or gashes. Not even any scrapes like last time.
I think moving in with your daughter is best for him and you … just convincing Bill or just telling him like I did my Mama when she had to come live with us .. it is the only best choice we have.
Frank, my husband helped me as caretaker with my mama for two years. My health is not good .. and lost a lot of weight in that time, but back up now. It is important to take care of yourself. Maybe Bill will understand that you need help. Mama's insurance did not pay for people to come in and help with baths and such. PT they did pay for to come to the house. Frank found pull-ups that would do Mama most nights. .. she got to where she would fall trying to get to her potty chair .. I have a bum hand and putting diapers on her was a big pain.
Was Bill a writer of mysteries? Before all my health issues got so bad I was going to read a murder mystery and I think I remember one of your husband's books as a choice.. but long ago and I may be remembering wrong. I cannot pay attention for long anymore.. so leave my reading to short stories and poems.
Oh .. you mentioned genealogy in one of your post as an interest. My husband, Frank (on Ancestry as Lewis Goff) is a dna match to a Julie Chitwood… are you the same one?