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Advice on Taking Care of a Spouse after a Mastectomy
Breast Cancer | Last Active: Dec 15, 2023 | Replies (25)Comment receiving replies
I had another thought. I don’t know your family situation, but one of our sons lives closer than the other and they both wanted to come ‘home’ for the surgery, both at the time in late 20’s. I told them to hang in there until afterwards to see how things would be and my younger son dropped a little bomb by saying, “Yeah, but I can be there for Dad while he is waiting.” Covid may change things, but don’t be afraid to express how you feel too.
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Double mastectomy on March 22nd, I was worried about the drains the most.
I have a great support team with 4 sisters, but my son (25) and daughter (29) both took FMLA and are going to be with me at Mayo for my surgery and at home for the drain care during recovery.
The training took many of the fears away. We did not think we could manage the drains and daily upkeep.
But realizing that we could touch and feel them while they trained us made the upcoming event less traumatic.
I can keep you posted on how we did? I am sure there will be some uncomfortable moments but I appreciate the love support and care my children are going to give.
The caretakers have the hardest job on this journey.
Caretakers love, worry, cry behind close doors and pray we are going to be OK.
Love my family for what they have done and the journey is not over!
You are doing the best as a husband/spouse and partner by just being there!