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Bill has started being very restless in bed, especially flinging arms and hitting out in his sleep. Unfortunately I have a Cochlear Implant on the right side and lately he has been connecting! Not good. At this point I think I'm going to have to sleep in the guest bedroom, which I've been reluctant to do as it is on the other side of the house. His mental problems are getting worse (turns 89 in April) and the other evening he asked me to bend over to give him a kiss and he clapped (with strength) both sides of my head, connecting up with the implant device. So now I have to remind myself to stay out of reach even in the daytime - before he was just jerking me down to him in his chair. I'm not sure if the restlessness is a sign the CKD is getting worse. He already takes a slew of pills and really don't want to add more. Some of our kids were visiting from Vegas and were horrified when they saw him do that to my head. He had been doing a pretty good 'showtime' for them.

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Julie, I am going to say the very hard thing today. Now that your kids have witnessed the decline, and you are not going to be in the same room at night, is it time to figure out the "next step." I am worried about you, your health and your safety.

If the two of you are not already past being safe at home alone, the day is coming. Have you discussed, with Bill or the kids, what you will do? Daily in home help? Kids or grandkids coming to help (not just visit) - either one or platooning? Respite care so you can rest? Full time care in a facility?

Can you initiate this discussion? And if it is too hard for you to do alone, can you get some help from a pastor or social worker?
Please, let me know what you are planning to keep you both safe!

Sue