So sad you have two close relatives with this terrible disease. My husband was on Aricept for over a year, but we stopped it as I noticed his short term memory was getting worse. The neurologist put him on a low dose of Citalopram for anxiety instead. He told me that he didn't feel so overwhelmed by things anymore. He was fairly active, walking an hour a day by himself up to last week when he fell over a box left at our front door and broke his hip. He had surgery and is now in a skilled care/rehab facility. He is doing okay, no hallucinations, and now understands that he will be there until it's safe for him to come home. I act as his interpreter with the staff. The other night, they wanted to shower him at 6:30 pm. He had eaten dinner, brushed his teeth and was ready to retire for the night. He refused the shower and I told them he was too tired. He sometimes refuses therapy, but will do it when they try again later. It seems to be all about timing for him. A PA prescribed oxycodone - 5mg, 3 x a day for his pain, but I got him off that fast. He said his pain was a "7" at a meeting I was not invited to attend. I told the staff that if his pain were a "7" he would be writhing in agony, moaning and begging for a painkiller. The care home staff were relieved when I requested no oxycodone. It can make people with Alzheimer's more confused, drowsy, prone to falling and create cravings. This is quite the learning experience.