Hello @dreohm78 Your father and the family have really had a difficult year. Yes, melanoma is a difficult cancer. There are several discussions on melanoma on Mayo Connect, but i think this one might be the most appropriate,
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/slow-growing-melanoma-on-the-face/
You said that you might consider asking Mayo for assistance. Here is a link for more information: http://mayocl.in/1mtmR63
I will also try to tag some other Connect members who have made these big decisions.
Are you the medical power of attorney for your dad?