Big family on both sides and we have 7 kids with our first grandson born this year.
I get my time in early or when I feel my best for the day, then I relax either in my lazyboy or in bed. Simple rule is if you want to hangout with me it's one on one and it's in my comfort zone. The reason I act like this is because if I don't then I don't get quality time with everyone and doing it the other way is to painful and just to get back to my normal pain take a few days.
I used to suck it up but the recovery time was to much, my wife and I talked about it and this allows to to see everyone and spend quality time with them without killing myself.
Merry Christmas