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Recent, totally sudden, traumatic loss of our daughter, 45.
Loss & Grief | Last Active: May 5, 2023 | Replies (47)Comment receiving replies
Hi Johnchuck, interesting name. I have 2 cousins from the same Aunt and Uncle with those names. Anyway I too share in the grief of a lost child a few years ago. She was 36 and died due to a brain swelling due to an infection that caused meningitis. Went in on a Monday to get it checked out and by Thursday She was gone. Being I'm immune compromised myself and I honestly didn't think something like a virus could do that much damage that fast (this was pre covid). So I didn't go visit immediately and by the time I got to see her she was in a coma. So I prayed over Her and spoke to her but honestly don't know if she heard me. Anyway now as a grandparent to her 3 Kids I think about there loss the most. Their dad's do pretty well to give them what they need and as a grandparent I too am there for them. So just wanted to say Hi and show my support as it's an area that I think most don't know this kind of pain except someone whose been thru it.
As we are now in the Holiday season How are you coping?
Blessings
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Holidays are so very hard. Filled with reminders. I could lie, like I do to many who ask politely “How are you?” and accept my canned responses - “Doing good, or Fine, thanks for asking.” But I’m not fine. The basic fabric of my life included connections to her in more ways than I knew. Now I know I have to repair that fabric. But I’m reluctant to,change things. It feels like I am somehow intentionally moving her out of my life. Do I know that she wants me to move on and live life fully? Yes. Am I able? Not yet. I will call it part of the grieving process and hope that time will expose a new path. In the meantime, it’s the Holidays. Watching old Christmas movies is about the best I can do this week. Next month will be better. I must make a New Years Resolution (and I have always hated them) to be a bigger part of the grandkids’ lives. Hard when we live so far apart. I need better digital skills to do that easier. I guess it’s the way of the future. I know she would have wanted it. Sorry if this post is a downer but the Holidays are the hardest for me. Ready for January.