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Holidays and unusual depression
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Jan 4, 2022 | Replies (17)Comment receiving replies
@teacher502 It is good that you and your husband have an open line of communication, and can discuss things.
I agree with @IndianaScott about the realities of diminished capabilities in times of illness. A couple of thoughts came to mind as I read your post. Your husband is sad he may not be able to participate at the same level as in years past, and is concerned you are pushing yourself even more to create what has been. Also, there is a progression in his disease that he might find unsettling to have "on display" to visiting family members. It may "drive home" the real fact things have changed, and he is unsure how it will be seen by visitors.
Does any of this sound like it might fit your situation? Reassurances from you and facing the upcoming holidays as a team, may make a difference in him.
Ginger
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Thank you, Ginger. Your comments are very eye opening and comforting to me. I am doing more mainly because he spends a lot of time waiting on me to tell him what to do versus the fact that many of these things he used to do without needing to be reminded. Grateful for your comments. I am pretty sure he will sleep and nap for a few days after this Christmas is over....but he won't be alone because I am already tired! He is aware of the fact that he cannot do the things he used to do, and it makes him sad that he feels that he is already a burden. But I am the lucky one that had the honor of spending so many wonderful years with this amazing man.....and now I am blessed with the privilege being there for him when he needs me the most!