Just ready your plea Scootergirl and was surprised how much we are alike in that I am 74 and will be undergoing the same procedure as you on December 9th. Please do not lose any sleep over worry or fret about 'what might happen' as it will do nothing positive for you. Instead, please envision 3 weeks post operation - maybe less - when the pain you had is now replaced with the soreness of healing. I've read up on this surgery, what to expect, etc, etc, etc., and am only looking to the future. I've had a spinal fusion (some say, horror of horrors) but I do believe my positive attitude was the key in getting on my feet in record time. First, your doctor / surgeon is not doing you justice if he has not had you go through a Joint Camp or an intensive program that provides you with all you need to know. BTW, the hospital I will have my surgery, 7 Rivers Bayfront in Crystal River, FL., requires everyone scheduled for hip, knee or shoulder replacement to go through a 2 hour Joint Camp program where everything is explained and a notebook of information is given. Hope this helps. BTW, your boyfriend is not helping by discounting your concerns and he needs to know about it. The day will come and he will need support. Blessings & Health!