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Death of Husband: The hardest thing I've had to deal with
Loss & Grief | Last Active: Jan 10, 2022 | Replies (27)Comment receiving replies
Dear @lind827
I noticed that a year ago 11/21/20 you were expecting the birth of a grandchild,: Happy First Birthday, Baby!
I hope you are experiencing some relief from your grief. You went through some major changes. You were married to your beloved husband for 37 years. I would imagine you were taking care of him and that can must have been quite intense.
I don't know if you had experienced depression prior to his death.
Having experienced depression intertwined with grief, sadness and disappointment, I know how important talking to someone helps me.
Having someone who listens, can empathize or sympathize, and gives me a sense of trust leads me to hope...my most important part of healing.
I hope you have found someone to talk to. I hope you are receiving a sense of comfort.
I hope the empty spots left behind are being filled with nurturing and nourishing thoughts, memories, experiences and activities.
I can only speak for myself--within my survival toolbox, 3 expressions help me put things into perspective and help me derail ANTs...Automatic Negative Thoughts. I'm sure you have your own little says. Please accept mine with the knowledge that my intentions are sincere.
"This too shall pass."
"Time does help heal wounds."
"Hope is the joyful expectation of good things to come."
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Shirley, how observant and kind of you to notice that @lind827 just celebrated her grandchild’s first anniversary. That first birthday is such a joy. So many first in that first year, as their are in the first year of grief.
Like you, my mom and I often used the phrase “this too shall pass”. I’ll also add another one “It is what it is”. I found this phrase when said with meaning helped with acceptance.