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Introductions: Are you caring for someone with dementia?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Aug 16 2:33pm | Replies (762)Comment receiving replies
Hello Everyone,
I just joined tonight. I have no idea where these posts go so I found this introductory post by Scott and thought it was a good place to start. My mother passed away decades ago after living with Alzheimer's for only a few years. I miss her; she was gone before she died. I have a dear friend who is showing symptoms that remind me of my mother. I see waves of behavior (reacting with sudden anxious responses, self-absorbed, intense difficulty understanding or remembering whole ranges of topics) that are the opposite of her personality (gentle, strong, and highly intelligent) and am transported back to trying desperately to hold on to my mother. I started reading these posts and instantly felt that I am not alone and walking in helpless misery as my friend unravels. I am, instead, surrounded by people who understand. I wish she would get tested and we could be more open about what is going on. I fear it will have to get worse before that would ever happen. But know that your willingness to share in this group has rescued another person from despair. Thank you.
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Good day, @lindakbe Welcome to Connect. I am glad you found our community here. Personally, I came to Connect when I was feeling very isolated by my caregiving responsibilities. I am sorry about the loss of your mother and to read about your friend's struggles. I remember in my MIL's situation there was an incredible amount of denial among family members who (in my view) wasted a lot of time in denial rather than accepting the changes and living the best relationship they could with my MIL. Unfortunately, there are folks who just seem unable to accept the change in a loved one as in the case of my in-laws. Even after many years of disease and now past her death, some still refuse to acknowledge my MIL had dementia. On the other hand, my wife gently did what she could to help her dad realize what he needed for help and to do some things to help keep her mom safer.
It can be a tough road to navigate for sure, but it is wonderful to read you are interested in helping your friend! You are right -- you are not alone!
If I may ask, what is your biggest concern for your friend right now?
Strength, Courage, & Peace