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@jimhd

@fieryrn Boy, do I know about being tired of being tired! I'm glad to know that you have a good therapist. I've seen a string of them for 15 years. Because we live in a rural community, mental health care isn't the greatest, especially for Medicare clients. I've had 13 therapists in 15 years. I've been able to have therapy through the county mental health and through the hospital's behavioral health, and every one of them has moved on to greener pastures after a year. A number of them were doing their internship requirement. The man I'm seeing now is in private practice and accepts Medicare - the only one I know of in central Oregon, and like you and many others, our sessions are on telemed. I've adjusted to the format, which is better than a phone call, but not quite the same as in person.

Are there changes you've been able to make to continue your work? I was in the hospital for 18 days recently, and I could see how hard everyone worked. One nurse had a student with her, learning on live people how to do all of the little things that have to be done. The nurse stood back and only intervened if she had to. She was a good teacher. I thought of her as I thought of you. You might have to be creative in how you move forward. Change is fun for some people (I'm not part of that group). Sometimes it's trial and error in finding the right groove.

I'm sure that the other staff members understand that you have new limitations, and most of them will want to do what they can to help you. I know that it can be hard to accept help, but their concern for you is a gift. It was a lesson I had to learn, so that I wouldn't rob a person of the joy of giving, and to do that I had to learn to be grateful and gracious.

Have you had fruitful conversation with HR or other entities about what your job description will look like? I trust that they will work with you.

Do you sleep well? That's, as you of course know, an important component of our self care. I have sleep apnea and use a BiPap machine. What a difference it has made in my life.

I pray that you will have a peace filled day tomorrow, and will have a week to remember.

Jim

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@jimhd While I have anticipated changes were coming since I received my osteoporosis diagnosis about a month ago, I had not actually talked to my Primary Care about what that may look like. Maybe too....a little denial on my part. On thursday was my first conversation about all this. In fact, she said she had never cared for someone with osteoporosis as bad as mine that was still actively working....and as a bedside nurse. So....all this feels horrifically overwhelming and I'm trying to navigate the information and do what I need to do. If that means light duty and my unit can accommodate that, I'd like to try that. I CAN retire but that was not what I had planned to do at this time. So, saying all this, I'm not sure what my work place can/will do. I've not had any real conversation with my manager and not any with HR.
No, I don't sleep well....not for the last 4 yrs. And my hubs has a CPAP which help him greatly but often wakes me in the night. :p
This year has been overwhelming with each month since January bringing its own dreadful news. So to say I'm feeling "piled upon" is an understatement! I am having trouble even with small changes in my lifestyle right now.....I've got to make myself workout! I know I do, but I cannot seem to start....
I have a big trip planned in Jan with my sister and I've got to get as physically ready as I can!! UGH!!!!!