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Ashamed: I think about (and plan for) dying. Do you?
Lung Cancer | Last Active: Apr 7, 2023 | Replies (196)Comment receiving replies
Sometimes it’s the simple things. My mom and I talked about her final days, which given her (our) family genes is still a long ways off although she is in her 80s. It gives me great comfort to know that should she not be able to talk, I can give her comfort by 1) massaging her calves because she has restless leg syndrome and 2) read to her passages from the bible. I’m now equipped with knowing what to do. And on the other hand, my dear friend has let me know that I’m to swabbed her lips with tequila. That is her wish for final days. While I may not have the opportunity to administer to either, it gives me great comfort NOW to know what I should do when the time comes.
I hope your children may be able to embrace the power of such knowledge. Or perhaps a friend.
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Hi Colleen: Such great advice. I thought I would take it slow and easy so I asked my daughter and granddaughter about consignment places where I could take some of my things and sell them while I have the strength to do it. I thought it might get them on the road of thinking about my disease and that if I start talking about small easy things that aren't morbid, they may be more inclined to help me with those things and hopefully make it easier for them to help me later down the road with the bigger things. I don't know if that will help but I'm just trying to come up with ideas that won't scare them yet get them involved. Since we only see each other about once every week or two they don't see they don't see the real problems I face with daily chores. So asking them for help with small things like help taking things to consignment stores with me might be a start. Your thoughts? I'd really appreciate your honest opinion or any advice Thanks so very much, Colleen. God bless you.
Be at peace,
Shirley