My daughter 19 year old attempt committed suicide

@teresamom My heart goes out to you and her father. I have been close to situations like this, both in my biological family as well as my own family. Bipolar is a tough one. How long has she been showing signs of mania/depression? Treatment, I will guess, is going to be longer than a stay for you. In my experience, treatment centers feel that it's best that the patient not have contact with family for a while after admission. That was new to me when my daughter went into treatment. I understand the reasoning. You have such a close relationship and she really will need to focus on her behaviors. She undoubtedly will have a lot to unpack and parse through to understand where she's at and where she wants to be. Also, if there is alcohol or drugs involved that makes the parsing even more difficult. I'm so glad you thought to contact Connect. This is a wonderful way to get information as well as support and share with people who have similar experiences.

I wish I could tell you about Mayo, but I've not been. I will keep you, your daughter, and her father in my heart. Please keep writing if it helps. Best every, Suzanne

Thank you, I appreciated your warm message!

Hello @teresamom and welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. First, let me start by telling you that I can feel the immense gratitude and joy in your writing for your daughter having survived what must have been a very scary time for her, you, and everyone involved.

I wanted to share a few links to resources that may be helpful should you want to pursue coming to Mayo Clinic for her care, as you mentioned. First, here is some information on Bipolar Disorder care.

- Bipolar disorder care at Mayo Clinic:
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/bipolar-disorder/care-at-mayo-clinic/mac-20355966
Next, there are quite a few members who share tips and information in this other group on Connect called Visiting Mayo Clinic.

- Visiting Mayo Clinic (Group):
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/traveling-to-mayo-clinic/
There are some more specific discussions that may be helpful depending on what you are looking for right in the Visiting Mayo Clinic Group.

Back to your daughter... do they have any idea how long she will be there until she can be discharged? Also, how are you doing?

Hi Amanda, thank you for your reply and info, I will go to those links and find out more for sure. Our story is a long one and likely part of the reasons that worsen my daughter's depression. She is still in Hospital, not sure when she will be discharged, right now it's on up to another 14 days of stay. Both my husband and I have been trying everything we can to control the damages to her life and upgraded her insurance coverage. Husband had a mild case of MS, I am keeping an eye on him too. I am holding up OK I hope.

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter and her circumstances. Though before you begin seeking mental health treatment for her look into your own community. She will require ongoing OP MH treatment and potentially you and your husband too and seeking professionals far from your home will cause long term treatment problems. Start with the facility currently treating her.

@tersamom I took the liberty to look up your county, seeing that you mentioned it in your post. skagit county washington mental health services has many listings that have associated websites to review. skagit county washington mental health services

Like @jenatsky mentioned, ongoing outpatient care will be critical. And I know that having family services so both you and your husband can receive care, is important. Onboarding a mental health team who will work with your particular situation is critical. While you may initially choose to go to Mayo Clinic for treatment. having a local care team will be so important.
Ginger

While I was at Mayo Clinic I stayed at the Kahler Grand Hotel. The hotel will work with you on prices. Check into the rental option. I wish I had been aware of the hotel accommodations because my stay was over 35 days.

Unfortunately my brothers outcome was very different. Unfortunately he was 57 a grown man. Mental Health is very challenging when they are over 18. You are her advocate she’s over 18. Please consider having her sign something saying if needed the doctor or you can speak to each other. My brother was very manic and took the faculty to task. They were frustrated with him and his care was compromised. Showed signs of mental health issues early age. My parents chose to ignore. Be proactive and brave.
Important to journal where things started and helps identify where , when and how as a family to heal. There’s no cure however manageable and painful at the same time. Loves and hugs always help! Thinking of her. Sounds like she’s putting everything right in front of you crying out for help. Asking is not part of the plan. I learned to watch , listen and act immediately when needed. System is challenging.

It’s hard to come to terms with reality when it seems only you can see it.

My prayers are with you it’s a very difficult situation to be in it takes a toll on everyone who is closely involved with the people even the doctors but for relatives it’s an uphill task in my opinion it’s is important to realise that even with the best of care given by the doctors and the family the outcome may not be that one hoped for so in such a situation one can start blaming oneself or fall in a circle of what if? Please at such a time do remember that you did whatever was humanly possible