@sandyrob: Are your sure you did not try to imitate my situation? Same, husband early prostate cancer, me early breast cancer, and COVIDIOTS all around. Mostly, being informed on Mayo websites helps, but being surrounded by science challenged local government (known also as McDisaster/SC), equilibrium is hard to come by with also cancer treatment issues.
We did, however, make it to early retirement age, so our ditto situation was a little later (my breast cancer this spring, prostate 2 years ago). Still similar, and by no means any easier. Best of luck to you and your husband!