Hello @jerrynord. Please accept my sympathies in the loss of your wife. Being alone a lot doesn't help as you deal with grief. Do you have any friends or organizations that you can connect with? I'm thinking of church groups, sports teams, community or volunteer activities? Please know that four months is not a long time after a loss. There is no time limit for grief so be patient with yourself and give yourself as much time as you need.

You might already know that sleeplessness and a sense of guilt are both normal responses to grief. We all can look back on our relationships and wish we had done more. That is very common to anyone who has lost a loved one.

It is well known that talking about your loved one and the feeling of loss is very important as you adjust to the loss. Would you like to tell us something about your wife? For example, how long were you married? Did she die after a long illness or was it a sudden death? Please share as you are comfortable doing so.