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Is Low Diastolic Blood Pressure common with Stage 3 or 4 CKD?
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If he will not visit the doctor, is he open to enrolling in hospice? Perhaps you can approach it in terms of "they will help me take care of you, and put my mind at ease that I am doing things the way you want."
We have had home, in nursing home and residential hospice for our parents. It was wonderful as they explained each "next step" and helped us through.
One of our best friends made the decision 3 weeks ago to forego further surgery or treatment for his total bowel obstruction, because he too has a number of other terminal conditions. He agreed to home hospice, and it has helped his wife and daughters immensely in caring for him.
We were able to visit him, in his home, before he reached the stage of actively dying, and it was wonderful to see the support they had. At each turn, the nurse is available in person or by phone, to help them know what to do to make things easiest for him. She orders (and in some cases brings) meds and supplies to help, and secured a hospital bed and other aids, all covered by Medicare, to make him comfortable.
Just one option for someone who is ready to "let go." I wish you peace with his decision, whatever it may be.
Sue
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The last we knew (over a year ago) was he was in stage 3. No idea if it has progressed beyond that or not or what else is happening other than a lot of symptoms. We do know that he has a vascular valve problems and lots of very slow healing sores on his lets and scaling. No swelling like before but he sits in a recliner constantly with his feet up. A doctor would have to use the 6 month limit in order to qualify. No idea if he is close to that or still years, although at 88 years life span at stage 3 shows up at a couple of years (he was diagnosed at stage 3 in December of 2020. Our KY doctor never indicated anything wrong with kidney. Valve and Thyroid problem yes. BP and Gout controlled. He would be ok with hospice at home if it came to that. Daughter also said she would be willing to sell her home and move in to help when he needed it. She has alerted her school (she is a math teacher) that to immediately get her if I called and didn't get through to her. So they all have our back, plus family here. He isn't even up to more than 15 minute visits with family. Exhausted all of the time. Walking to the bathroom wipes him out.