I fell a couple of times in the days before my husband took me to the ER. I never expected acute kidney failure because we were focused on liver failure. When I got to the ER my blood pressure and pulse were extremely low. So was my temperature. I was not aware of much that was going on around me. My husband had to answer all of the questions and provide health information. I was given warmed IV fluids because I was dehydrated. They even used heated IV solutions for transport to the regional hospital. This was a complete surprise and most unexpected. Fortunately I was admitted to the ICU at the hospital where I was waiting for a liver transplant (prior to being sent to Mayo) so we were already familiar with the location. That helped my husband a lot.
I am aware that your husband does not want to see a doctor or seek treatment. I believe that is his right. I am, however, concerned for you. What does he want you to do if he fails? As uncomfortable as it is, please have a conversation with him. Tell him you need to call the doctor because ‘you need to know’ what to do. You love him and he loves you - let that be the source of strength that guides you. This is a condition that affects both of you. I am holding you and him in my thoughts.