I'm 50 and have difficulty from time to time. I can almost always connect it to one or more of the following things: stress, having more on my plate than I can handle, not eating well, or (especially) lack of exercise. My wife and I disagree a little bit as to the significance of the problem.

To her, she's perfectly happy whether I get a full erection or not. Our love is extremely passionate and she feels closeness regardless. She will say things like, "You don't need to worry about that." It's easy for her to say. She doesn't need an erection to have sex and it's not her body that's letting her down. (Please don't take this as a sexist statement, or insensitivity towards women. We all have difficulties and challenges. We are also different creatures. I can't fully understand what she goes through, and vice versa).

What she doesn't see or feel is the struggle and frustration I have over it. While a half-erect penis is good enough for her, it is super frustrating for me. In that situation, I do not feel confident and I worry about whether or not it will let me down. I don't feel sexy and I feel somewhat embarrassed. I worry that she will think I'm not turned on. (This is probably a learned response. In my experience, women often worry that a man is not turned on if he doesn't get erect or if he doesn't ejaculate). IMO both of these things can be equally physically and health related as they are emotionally.

So here's what I do:

1) I exercise 3-4 times a week, more if I remember and have the time. Consistency is the hardest part. I have a rowing machine I use, or I go hiking. Those are my go-to's. They both get blood flowing and keep me in shape. Walking, bicycling, and a million other things will do. Get your own groove going. Whatever it is, get moving.

2) Drink lots of water. Without fail, 9 times out of 10, if I have trouble in bed, I am dehydrated.

3) Take care of my business. For me, stress often comes in the form of things left undone, things piling up, and things that are out of my control. In 2 of these 3 scenarios, there is something I can do about it. I get productive and do what I can to clean things up around me. At the end of the day I feel more accomplished, have higher self esteem and self worth, I feel more confident and sexy. For the things that are out of my control, I say the Serenity Prayer and let the Man upstairs handle it.

4) I try to eat right. This is difficult for me. Food isn't always what it appears to be. But if I eat plenty of protein (chicken and eggs are my go-to's) and veggies, it's a great start. And again, lots of water.

5) I use Blue Chew. It's really easy and cheap. I think about $3 a pill. I use the one that is generic Cialis. It's good for 24 hours and I don't have to worry about it. I find that if I take it when I am feeling sluggish or less energetic, it will actually keep things working well for several days. So I generally end up just taking it like 2-3 times a week and I'm always good to go.

6) Cayenne pepper extract. It is amazing for your circulation and regulates blood density. I could write a complete essay on its benefits. I use Nature's Way brand, start with the 40,000 btu, and start with 1 per day with lots of water. You'll likely get heartburn from it for the first few days...that's the pepper cleaning bad cholesterol out of your system. Once I get used to it, I up the dose. until I get to like 3 a day. On days when I take Blue Chew, I do not take the Cayenne.

I hope this helps and I wish you well 🙂