Hi, again, @mothermary1 I understand that you are very conflicted about the upcoming surgery. Remember,that everyone on Connect is solidly behind you. We’re going to virtually hold your hand for the next several months!
When i worked as a nurse, i frequently took care of patients who had had major abdominal surgery. Yes, it was tough, but in a good hospital with good nurses, its very doable. The 1st 24 hours are the hardest because lots of people are coming and going. Every day gets a little better. Pain control is taken very seriously, too.
Turn toward the future now and plan what you will do while you’re recuperating. Paint? Knit? Read? Play games? Will you be going to a big hospital?