I am going to chime in and say this is a very serious time and there are very serious questions here, but you all have a pretty great sense of humor through it. I found this to help me a lot. I still make fun of all the gifts from breast cancer 17 years later. I was treated in my small town system and it was the opposite of @ellerbracke. My surgeon was a lifesaver, my oncologist never spoke to me after the initial 5 minute visit and turning me over to the nurse who was kind and funny. I had the stages of bras for 2 years. First the swelling of the surgery side being lopsided, I wore a back wrap around them tightly to keep them quiet. Then came the opposite where the non surgery side was still its normal size and the other had only half. But since I ride horses the movements were painful so I found a bra that was like armor around them both. I did decide I didn’t want to wear the prosthetic so I ended up in sports bras for most activities for the next 10 years. I went to a boutique 3 hours away for the prosthetic and bra I wore once when my husband and I renewed our vows. How are you doing size wise now? Have you finally healed up? Are you moving your arm?