Hi @maisy3 As suggested, a pelvic floor specialist (urogynecologist) would probably be able to help you, or depending on some factors be able to direct you to a doctor who can. There is speciality physical therapy for both urinary incontinence and fecal incontinence.
Also, when I had some problems with getting a diagnosis from a family doctor I was advised by two other doctors that as you get older your PCP should be a doctor of internal medicine, they are generally better diagnosticians. Family doctors are great in the capacity of treating the whole family – children and parents – but as we age we need more specialized treatment. I did switch and am glad that I did.