I am going to offer this: life-long competitive amateur athlete here. Not needy, very well educated. Married to a top amateur triathlete. I've been through seven major orthopedic/neurologic surgeries, she has been through eleven. If any surgeon, at any time indicated that they didn't have time to answer patient questions, it is an automatic 'move on'. Lack of empathy is legend in surgeons and is worst among cardiac, second worst among orthopedist. Do the research yourself. Get a second opinion until you get one that resonates with you. In particular, if your pain involves the spine, demand a second opinion from a Neurosurgeon. They are the brain-trust and will study if your symptoms match your diagnosis. I would be paralyzed if I hadn't done this myself.