Xanna. Upon reading your post, I have experienced the same set of circumstances vis a’ vis the medical community. In many ways, medical “science” has given us a better quality of life as it relates to eyes, certain joints like shoulders, knees, hips, etc. However, with the neurology of spines, the medical community is found to be lacking.
This is made worse by the arrogance with which many pitch solutions that don’t work and (speaking from experience) many times cause harm.
Every day I wake up wishing I had never let anyone cut into my back.
I have no answers or suggestions to offer here, only a prayer and hope that you’ll someday find a solution to your pain and physical limitation.