That is a tough place to be, @junkartist. Do you think they would be receptive to cards and letters that might affirm your love for them?

It might be a way to express your feelings for them and to keep the lines of communication open. I'm not sure how it would be received, but you might consider doing so down the road.

We have a discussion group on Journaling, which you might take a look at, Journaling – The Write Stuff For You?
Here is the link, https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/journaling-the-write-stuff-for-you/t. It has examples of the ways people journal about their feelings.

Keep talking about your feelings of loss and disappointment. Believe it or not, this is healthy and will be good for you.

I care about you. Will you keep posting and provide updates on how you are doing?

Yes, this is what is happening to me, I have three grown up children. There is love and much caring ( I have RA, Sjogren’s and TN and they are there for me regarding my physical illness but when we are together in person all three burst yelling at me for the simplest things like asking for a plastic bag
They are all middle age and I suspect it is part of middle age crisis and I am always receptive offering help and support but they are not willing to open up to me. They have friends and I understand but still I feel diminished and out down specially when they yell in front if my grandkids
I calmly respond or I don’t say anything but afterwards I have asked them to not yell at me but it keeps happening
I am divorced and they gave a strange relationship with their father,
Please help! How can I stop them from yelling at me besides asking them not to?
I have offer them my love and support all the time