@so1frustrated I have read some of your posts here, and please allow me a bit of time to read the entire thread. My brain fog gets in the way of clear thinking, sometimes. That said, I feel the need to reach out immediately to you.

Crying is a release. Of emotions, of stress. Gosh only knows you have had your fair share of all this recently! I wager you might have felt embarrassed to cry, but also some relief. As a fellow Aspie, we spend a lot of time masking how we are really doing/feeling. We get frustrated at not being heard/understood in a manner we can relate to. We get angry at feeling we are not taken seriously. You have kept detailed and great notes. Attention to detail is one of our strengths, sometimes to the chagrin of the medical team.

Here is a link to giving you the difference between a nephrologist and urologist: https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-a-nephrologist#tests-and-procedures. Is there a teaching hospital near you, or university-linked medical facility? To go this long with the situation you are facing, must be depressing, not to add in energy depleting. I will pop back in a bit later when I have had a chance to read this entire discussion.
Ginger