...that could be it,not sure, I was born in UK and came here alone in 1962 at age 18. In those days we were raised not to say "boo" to a bird!!! I was bossed round at work started when I was 16, and 9 year first marriage verbal and mental abuse.... I suppose it stays with you. I was recently yelled at over phone by ent I had waited almost a year to talk to and I didn't dare speak up. However, did write a letter a week later nicely explaining and hoping I hadnt prompted his behaviour type thing; he phoned week after after and said he was glad I wrote the letter, said I taught him a lesson and that his famiy said he does this.. but he still went on about himself! However my husband also does not often speak up for himself, but when he does, look out!!! p.s. I think we should be able to question those in authority if it involves our health and wellbeing, but it's a path I am not happy going down....in case of reprisal! J.