Good evening @alicataz. First, let me tell you how fortunate your gentleman is to have you as his partner. My life partner had a radical prostatectomy, followed by 30 days of radiation when the cancer reappeared in the prostate bed 2 years later, He is older than your gentleman at 75 and had no total performance issues until after the radiation. He chose not to use viagra except right after the surgery as part of the recovery process.

When we discussed this issue with his oncology team, he listened but did not make any commitment to take advantage of the option to try medication. This was a difficult and unfortunate end to what had been a pleasant and meaningful sexual relationship.

It is now three years later and we have just completed a year of staying home by ourselves because of COVID. We found a way of cuddling, snuggling and sharing manual manipulation. Recently, I have had a bout of kidney stones and found that my vagina and clitoris were suffering from dryness and irritation. We spoke with my clinician and she has prescribed a topical treatment that hopefully will give me some comfort.,

So, my dear, we all suffer from these aging issues. I don’t know how this will turn out, I do know that our relationship is stronger than it ever has been. What would you ask for if you could have anything you wanted? Do you talk about this issue together? Have you asked a clinician about the content of the fluid?

Have you considered working with a therapist as a couple?

May you find enjoyment in sharing your life together?
Chris