Well, he agreed to make an apt for a psychologist tomorrow...We will see if he will follow through. Is it helping your husband? Can you share what symptoms your husband has? I can share anything with you about mine to help you. My husband is so set in his ways that he won't listen to anyone's advice. I told him yesterday that I couldn't take much more of his being a hermit. He has divorced me emotionally. He goes to the bedroom every evening when he gets home from work and stays there. He has no interaction with me, hardly at all. No hugging, kissing, or any kind of intimacy. Can't take much more of this. It's gotten worse, lately.

Here's a helpful website: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001918 The recommendation of not making demands for emotional intimacy is a good one. I find that my husband is less likely to become a hermit if I am positive, kind and loving. If he thinks I disapprove of his behavior he becomes a hermit for weeks at a time (when he is not at work). Marriage counseling with a psychologist is helping us because my husband is most likely to want to live alone when we disagree too much. The counselor is helping us to change our patterns of communication, 5 positive comments for every 1 'problem' we need to discuss and resolve (like kids being too loud late at night or dogs waking him up). Is your husband critical of you when he does talk to you? If so, I would back off and let a good therapist help both of you. Hope it gets better soon. It is not easy to live with a hermit.

my husband is very critical of me all the time.. drives me nuts and turns me off to him altogether. I am trying to get him to go to counseling. The doctor put him on Abilify..but, it was $100..and we didn't have it...and that is with insurance...sucks..now,, were back to square one again.

my husband is very critical of me all the time.. drives me nuts and turns me off to him altogether. I am trying to get him to go to counseling. The doctor put him on Abilify..but, it was $100..and we didn't have it...and that is with insurance...sucks..now,, were back to square one again.

I have not heard good things about Abilify. Why did the doctor prescribe it? The critical remarks are a bad habit and a good marriage counselor can teach your husband to stop that behavior. It is a pattern of poor behavior that results in nothing but distance between two married people. For every 5 good things, maybe 1 criticism can be handled by most people. Husbands that do nothing but critique their wives need to be locked up together, in my opinion.

know that the critical nature is his problem and not yours and you just use your energy in liking and being who you are

THANK YOU SO MUCH!